Embrace and Pursue Life to the Full

In a previous post I talked a little about seeing with fresh eyes.  There is a passage in the Psalms that is connected to seeing with fresh eyes.  The passage is basically a clinic in taking time to pause…stop…and listen to our lives.  As humans it is one of our greatest advisories, the ability to think about ourselves and how life is going. Relationships.  Impact.  Struggles.  The pace of our lives is fast, hectic and only wants to move even faster as we get older. College students, your Freshman year goes by so fast and the next three years go by even faster.  Our culture leaves very little room and offers no value to taking time to think, reflect and pause.  Even prayer is often seen as unproductive and outdated.
Our hearts are a mystery to us.  Only God can look into the depths and pull out the things we need to see.  This can only happen if we will take time to stop…to pause.  Examine me, O Lord, and try me; test my mind and my heart.  God is on our side and longs for us to be His. We have our mental check list with pen in hand…I don’t do this “bad thing” and I have stayed away form that “bad thing.”  In our eyes we might think were doing pretty well, if well was all about actions. We need fresh eyes to see what is truly inside our hearts.  We need fresh eyes to discover where we are placing our trust. Trust is about who and not about what. If we regularly take time to pause and ask Him to examine our hearts and show us who we are and where our trust is finding its home… there will be stability and security in a hectic and crazy world.  All we have to do is slow down, rest and pause.

Top 10 lessons from our parent panel

  1. Love them unconditionally. You might disagree with their choices and be hurt, but love them without fail.
  2. Parent out of trust and try to avoid fear. Easier said than done.
  3. Ask for help.  If your single or married ask for help. God has given us the “body” for a reason. Surround your kids with other adults who can provide a positive influence.
  4. Choose your battles and stay consistent.
  5. Know your kids. Quality and quantity is the only way to truly know your kids.
  6. Each kid will need to be parented differently. What works with one, might not with the other.
  7. You cannot force your kids to love God, but you can expose them to the things of God.
  8. Prayer is your greatest weapon!
  9. Be the parent not their friend. Friendship will come later.
  10. Don’t freak out–it’s adolescence–perfect kids not included. It’s not a question of if they mess up, it’s what will you do when they do mess up?

Parents I had a great time with all of you over the last four weeks.  I will continue to remain connected with you through e-mails and this site.  Please feel free to ask questions or share concerns.  If you would like to grab time together in the future you can calL April to get something set up.

I’d be happy to meet with you and talk.

Phone:260 493-7400

e-mail:aherrmann@blackhawkministries.org

The Real Act of discovery consists not in finding new lands, but in seeing with new eyes.
-MARCEL PROUST

This quote was taken from the book “The ten Faces Of Innovation”.  One of my passions is to make things better, easier, faster or slower.  I love looking at what is already there and thinking through how to do it in a new way.  Sitting down with a group of people a white board, a problem/issue and figuring out how to see it with new eyes is rewarding and difficult.  Its rewarding when you discover something and it works.  Its difficult because not everyone is going to see it from the same perspective.  Perspective.  Lens.

We are all in process.  We are all looking at life from similar, but different places.  Our culture has many versions of the truth and many ways of determining what truth is…for them.  Many of the systems in our world are stagnant, broken and not working as they did in the past.  Maybe its time we looked at some of them with fresh eyes…maybe then we will find new lands…where hate is replace with love and criticism is replaced with compassion…and anger is replace with understanding…Someone once wrote, “they have eyes to see and ears to hear, but do neither because they refuse to see and hear.”   What in your life are you refusing to see?  Who in your life are you refusing to listen?

Many times I refuse to listen to my wife, my kids and even my God.  I find myself often listening to the chatter of the world and allowing it to lead me away form my true purpose in life.  I need fresh eyes to see my faults.  I need to  see how I can get better, faster, or slower in my life.  I’ll keep working, thinking and wondering how that will invade the old lands where I live.